Monday, 17 June 2013

On Gender, Sexuality, and Tits.

Shortly after writing my post for crashing the Modesty Panel, I was sitting at Mr BF's mom's house, with his two younger sisters, aged 12 and 14, when I was checking my phone, noticed some comments on my Modesty Panel post, and screamed excitedly.  Of course, my two sisters-in-law wanted to know what was up, so I told them about the comments and that I was The Tit Rambler, I ramble about tits.  Then, the older of the two said something I could have never expected, and it left me absolutely dumbfounded and unable to respond:

"I thought you were straight?"

Wow, um, okay.  At that moment, all I could do was give her an incredulous stare, completely unable to understand or believe what she said.  I'm sure I spent a moment or two doing my signature fish face, with my mouth opening and closing again and again with eyes agape.

My sexuality aside, are tits truly exclusively sexual?  Really?  Is it not possible to talk about tits without talking about sex?  The entire bra fitting community leads me to believe that they can indeed be separate conversations, but what are things like in the outside world, in the parts of society where "typical" teenage girls absorb the majority of their information?  Honestly, I don't even want to know.

Alright, so, just to blow my dear sweet sister-in-law straight out of the water, guess what?  I'm not straight.  Ohhhh no.  I'm actually omnisexual, which is commonly used interchangeably with pansexual, but here, for my purposes it even includes not-quite-human creatures (I love monster girls, and have a thing for Bowser from the Super Mario series *awaits judging*).  For those of you who don't know just yet what pansexual means, it's used to refer to someone who is attracted to all genders.  Kindly don't mistake it with bisexual, which indicates an attraction only to folks who fit within the gender binary.  I hope I've explained it decently.


Anyway, I think I'll venture on from the realm of sexuality to that of gender.  Before we continue, I'd like to add in a couple of images to help clear some things up for all of you.






Alright, now that we've gotten that out of the way, I will now say that I'm as gender-fluid as my huge tits and heterosexual relationship allow me to be.  What can I say?  He's straight, and that okay.

Anyway, anyone who read my Modesty Panel Crashing bit will know that back in my middle years of high school, I presented myself as being a bit masculine most of the time.  This may have been caused in part by what I suspect are my naturally high testosterone levels, which seem to have sorted themselves out since I was placed on hormonal birth control.  That being said, ever since I was a child, I've never really identified myself as one gender or another, even though a family friend was quite fond of calling me "princess".  I would be deeply perplexed any time I'd hear that <insert thing here> was for <insert gender here>.  In school, whenever they wanted to divide us by gender, I felt as though I'd have been quite happy with either group, but of course, I always went with the one which matched me physically.

As someone who identifies at least in part as a male, there are times when I'd like to look like one, and as such, I've considered investing in a binder for such times, or even to add to my regular bra rotation, but well, there could be a problem with that...



On the subject of gender not always relating to your physical parts, there's a page from a webcomic I enjoy which really got me giggling.  For reference, Larson (on the left) was born and raised as Marie, and Zoey (on the right) was born and raised as Alexander.


Venus Envy by Erin Lindsey is pretty great, even though I really can't relate with a lot of the content, it's delightfully entertaining.  It's been going for quite a few years, and is still continuing (slowly!).  I'd say it's worth a read.

So, if anyone has any thoughts or questions related to any of this, feel free to leave a comment and I'll get back to you.  It would be neat to hear about anyone who can relate.  Also, this is the third place where I've come out about my actual gender, so, congratulations on being among the first to know.

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